Patience - The Antidote for Stress plus articles and information on Inspirational Why is it so difficult to hold steadfast to a mitment to the very thing we desire? I'm sure you've had the experience of challenging your client with something to do asics gel kayano 18 womens uk , or to be, in service of moving them closer to their heart's desire. As you reconvene again and again, you note that the client can't seem to stay mitted to the steps that will realize their dreams. Certainly the age-old response is fear--but perhaps there is more going on. Frankly, sometimes I can feel like a nag, repeating that there isn't anything crueler than wanting, desiring, or yearning for something--and then not giving to yourself. It's like being really thirsty and not giving yourself water. Denying the self the very thing that gives life joy is a form of spiritual starvation. It's disheartening to watch the spirit die at the hand of its human host. I've been pondering what causes a lack of consistency in mitment to follow-through and achievement of desired results. It is not lack of effort on our clients' parts. Consistent mitment necessitates a depth of patience that our Western culture does not appreciate or support. We are a multi-tasking world. We are valued asics onitsuka tiger mexico 66 black white , employed, and acknowledged for our ability to do more than two things at the same time. The multi-tasker is honored and revered and wears their ability as a badge of honor, proud and ready to go. If we are so good at doing so much at the same time, what gets in our clients' way of staying true to those things they are trying to change? In creating ourselves as master doers, we forgo the one thing needed for spiritual development--patience. Patience is not the art of waiting. It is the art of mindfulness, of slowing down to take in what is happening inside of our clients right now. Patience pauses to be with self. It is a focus of awareness centered in relationship with the current event. Patience puts the being in front of the doing. Patience with pause is mindfulness. Mindfulness means being full with one's mind on one thing. There is no way to be "full of mind" with many things simultaneously. Neither our minds nor our hearts can hold ten things at once with equal mitment to awareness let alone the lessons from that awareness that is ourring. We multi-task for rapid results, and in that energy we bee anxious asics gel saga sale uk , we breathe faster; hyperventilating our precious system. Mindfulness is not devoid of results, but it doesn't try to create results before they are due to arrive. Mindfulness teaches us to mit ourselves to the moment, to the process, and to enjoy the ride. When we take pause for mindfulness, we experience life rather than race it. The truth is that all of us are already exhibiting mitment to something right now. In examining their habits created by fear, our clients already have evidence for their ability to mit, and thus manifest. We do know how to mit. The difference lies between making a conscious mitment and unconscious one. An unconscious mitment is one chosen without a pause for consideration or mindfulness. Unconscious choice is a default choice. We don't tend to take stock of the impact it will have asics gel noosa tri 9 uk , and only review its impact in hindsight. An unconscious default choice may work for your clients, but may not have the power to propel them to their desired result. You've heard the adage "It's not about the end result, it's about the journey." In mitting by default, clients are literally absent-minded in doing what they always do--of course it feels easy and effortless, but that limited amount of effort can instigate a craving for more of something different. Like many of us, they have forgotten the "pause of patience" as part of the equation. A conscious mitment is actively and powerfully chosen to align with the client's deep soul aspirations. A conscious mitment considers the impact of the intention and the desired results, and envisions the person they desire and need to bee. The difference between choosing default behaviors and ones that truly serve us is the level of consciousness applied in the choosing. The reason that being consistent to any practice we wish to bee a habit feels more difficult is that in the conscious choice we focus (albeit obsessively sometimes) on the results asics gel noosa tri 7 pink , rather than on the experience itself. What happens to our patience as we grow up? Isn't that one the basic lines we heard from our parents ? to be patient. Granted it was mainly used in relationship to our waiting for them. Yet, I suspect that many of our educational and corporate institutions have trained us well to be multi-tasking fools, and in a Pavlovian manner have rewarded us for thinking on our feet, being first with a solution to a problem, and responding quickly to downloadable requests. We want fast solutions to old problems. We love "Five Principles to?," "One-minute managers?," and "Seven laws of?" kinds of answers to our dizzy chaotic lives. We want to believe that the answer is out there asics gel noosa tri 6 for sale , perhaps in a 1- 3-5 or 7 easy and quick formulaic format. Again and again we are encouraged to move away from patience and to embrace frenzy packaged to look like speedy results. I know when I first started seeing all the programs, books and approaches that offered that 1,3,5-7 step solutions I thought they knew something I didn't. Not! I don't care how many diets I've been on what has been true will always be true: calories in versus calories out ? is the bottom line to dropping those pounds. No amount out a six week boot camp or a five easy meal plan is going to change that. The fact remains that if I want to shrink my behind I've got to be consistent to my plan. Being patient with my process mitments me to the process as well as the result. Whether I like to admit it or not I was mitted to gaining.
